in I have recently completed my Advanced Practitioner Ho'oponopono Certification with Dr. Joe Vitale based on the work of Dr Hew Len and before him Morrnah Simeona.
Hoʻoponopono (IPA [ho.'o.po.no.po.no]) is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. The Hawaiian word translates into English simply as correction, with the synonyms manage or supervise, and the antonym careless. Similar forgiveness practices are performed on islands throughout the South Pacific, including Hawaii, Samoa, Tahiti and New Zealand. - Wikipedia
There are four simple steps to the Ho'oponopono method, and the order in which these powerful words are said is not that important as I will explain below.
Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love are the only forces at work – but these forces have amazing power.
The best part of the updated version of Ho’oponopono is you can do it yourself, you don’t need me or anyone else to be there, you don’t need anyone to hear you. You can “say” the words in your head.
The power is in the feeling and in the willingness of the Universe to forgive and love.
Step 1: Repentance – saying the words I’M SORRY as you are responsible for everything that is going on in your mind, even if what you think is going wrong seems to be “out there.”
Once you realise and accept that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. I know I sure do.
This realisation can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems until you start to practice this method on your more obvious “in here” problems and see results.
So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself:
Start there and say you’re that you are sorry. That’s the whole step: I’M SORRY. Although I think it is more powerful if you say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”
Step 2: Ask for forgiveness – Say PLEASE FORGIVE ME -Don’t worry about who you’re asking this from. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Feel it, Mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.
Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking.
Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.
Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to The Creator of All That Is, or God. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.
That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. It is very simple and amazingly effective.
When I get upset or stressed and if I am aware that I am being triggered in a moment of time, for example, if one of my children is doing something I am unhappy about, or where a driver is driving in a way I don't like and if I say these 4 magical statements of "I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you" in whatever order works at that time in my mind and heart several times in a row, the negative or stressed energy that I was feeling completely dissolves and it can take less than 60-seconds to do so.
I so love using this principle.
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Holding Love in Our Hearts
As I sit in my warm house, my family and I are a long way away from those affected from the violence in Christchurch, New Zealand. Still we sit in shock, in grief, wondering how this could have happened in our beautiful country. As a family, we have been talking about the suffering of those touched by the violent acts of hatred we wonder what we can do to help?
What Would Love Do?
The one question that springs to my mind is what would love do?
I think that this powerful question is a key one. What can we do?
We can choose to right now and going forwards to be more compassioning towards ourselves and others. This hating of others is absolutely the opposite, most unconstructive direction we can choose. The people filled with hatred have closed off their own hearts. Rather than focusing our attention and energy on those who have wronged others, how about instead refocusing our attention on being the most loving version of ourselves that we can be?
So, open your heart, share your emotions, cry, scream, feeling everything that you feel right now, sitting with it, allowing your tears, your emotions and all your pain to surface, and then allowing your love to shine through. Give yourself the gift of keeping your heart open, this is in itself an act of love.
We need to look after ourselves, this includes our mental and heart health before we can help others.
Maybe then give a loved one a heartfelt call, give someone a hug, and help someone in need, whether they are affected by the violence in Christchurch or not. Let's come together in loving intention.
Let's make a joint intention - "My intention is that I am going to be more loving to myself and others today".
Let me know in the comments below your feelings on that statement, you are of course vey welcome to make up your own loving statement and share that as well.
If you need support and want to talk you are welcome to call me.
Sending you love
Nicole Wijngaarden, Relationship | Mental Health & Wellbeing Coach Wellington, New Zealand