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Happy Holidays!

18/12/2018

 
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For many of you, I know that the days leading up to next week will be madly stressful and busy with Christmas shopping, juggling work and children as well all the usual festive preparations. If you are struggling, remember to take some time out for yourself.

Options may include:
  • Maybe go for a relaxing walk before, during or after work
  • Bring awareness to and focus on your breath
  • Meditation
  • Doing something that makes you feel happy, calm and in control
  • Calling someone who you love
You will be able to handle everything a little better if you are looking after yourself first. If you need support get in touch with me.

To book coaching:
Call - 04 499 5732 or 02102625148     
Email - office@capitalsportsmed.co.nz

If you or a loved one, are:
  • Struggling with high-stress levels
  • Having emotional outbursts,
  • Are feeling overwhelmed or
  • Experiencing relationship challenges
Why don't you make an appointment and come and see me before Christmas? You will learn some new strategies and tools which will be helpful to get you through the holiday season with more patience, a smile and maybe even all of your hair. 

Personal Growth is not just for you - in order to help you grow, I continue to further my education and I have just gained my HeartMath Coaching Certification which is very exciting. 

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I am part of the integrated sports clinic of Capital Sports Medicine. They are one of Wellington's oldest and most respected clinics and offer a diverse range of services; Physios, Sports Massage, Sports Nutritionist, Sports Doctor, Podiatry, Hearing and now Coaching - http://capitalsportsmed.co.nz/home.aspx

To book your coaching session:
Call - 04 499 5732
Email - office@capitalsportsmed.co.nz
Capital Sports Medicine
Adrs - Level 5, 187 Featherston Street, Wellington CBD
(behind Nespresso)


Meditations
If you are interested in beginning your meditation journey, I now offer downloadable guided meditations which are available for purchase from my website shop.
1. NLP Study & Exam Mediation
2. Heart Focused Meditation
Click on the link here to purchase 
https://bit.ly/2LdSuB9

I also offer Gift Vouchers for those of you who may be interested in giving someone you love or care about some time with me as part of their personal development journey or in the run-up to Christmas for yourself.
To buy please call the clinic or myself or send me an email to organise.


Enjoy the sun and be sun-wise. Personally, I am not a great believer in sun-screen, I think that 20-30 minutes in the sun every day is more than enough, after that, I think that it's wise to cover up and stay in the shade, where you can still enjoy the heat and look after your body. You will of course know what's best for you, and I wish  you a relaxing and happy Christmas and New Years.

Happy Holidays and Safe Travels!

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Why Do We Argue?

3/7/2018

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Arguments reveal what we are holding in our hearts. Almost always, arguments grow out of an unmet emotional need. 
"Little things like taking the old newspapers out to the garage for recycling is not a big deal to him, but it is to me because I hate a mess. It's kind of a visual thing." What is she saying? One of her emotional needs is to have the house tidy. Mess is emotionally upsetting to her.
The wise person will look for the emotional need behind the argument. Bringing awareness to the situation by asking "Why is my spouse so upset over what seems unimportant to me?" or  "Why is my coworker always trying to pick a fight?" The answer to those questions will help you understand the other person. Meeting emotional needs is one way to create a positive climate for communication.
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Unhappy Couple
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION:
ACTS OF SERVICE
RECEIVING GIFTS:
​QUALITY TIME:
PHYSICAL TOUCH:


For the Words of Affirmation person, know that you are not limited to the expression of words alone (e.g. "I love you" or "I appreciate you"). Although these words may fill their love tank, they also want to hear the reasons behind those words, such as why do you love me? Take a moment to think through why you love or appreciate someone. It may be your partner, family member, child, friend, colleague, or other relationship. Let them know the WHY behind the words, and watch them light up with joy.
In the workplace, you can speak the Appreciation Language of Acts of Service. If you notice a co-worker overwhelmed with projects, offer to help them out in some way. Not only will you strengthen a friendship, but you will also help to reduce their stress level and create a more positive work environment.
If you want to love or appreciate someone in your life who is primarily a Gifts person, try buying them a ticket to their favourite movie, theatre, or a sporting event. The trick to making it extra special is to be listening ahead of time for what their interests are & buy tickets accordingly. Or maybe they like peonies (Flowers) but dislike lilies, make sure that you get the right kind otherwise  you may not score big, even if you went out of your way and spent good money. Listen closely, and you will find the right way to show them you love them.
If you are physically separated from someone you love, a handwritten letter can help fill their love tank. This is because you took the time to sit down, hold it in your hands, and write it. It is this expression that can be an excellent way to connect when apart. As they read the love letter over & over, it will make them feel special and loved and it will reduce the stress of being seperated.
There are moments in life when appropriate touches are extremely powerful. An an example, when someone experiences a devastating loss, it can be very meaningful to be held or hugged. Often this brings a sense of calm and peace. Be aware that not everyone expresses their need in this way, but everyone does need to be loved, especially when life gets overwhelming. 
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Happy Couple
If you would like to understand how to make your relationships more loving and less argumentative, get in touch.
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Ever thought about your morning rituals?

18/6/2018

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​What are your morning rituals? Are they the same every day? Do you start your day off in a state of stress or in a state of inner happiness and with an intention of gratitude and the decision that you are going to have an amazing day, each and every day?

It is incredible for me to think how many people, stumble out of bed, do the same thing every day, unaware that their inner dialogue has a profound impact on how they feel and how they go about their day. 
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So let me ask you, are you aware of your thoughts when you get up in the morning? Did you know that scientists have now discovered that we have between 60-70,000 thoughts a day, most of which we aren't even aware of at a conscious level, although they all have some impact on how we behave and interact with those around us.

Angry & Raging Man
Are you raging like this on the inside?

WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS?

Bringing awareness to our thoughts and attitudes as we go about the day, from the moment we get out of bed, will help us shine a light on why our lives may be going in an unwanted direction.

Some people find getting out of bed a challenge, and they don't feel up to being loving or kind until that they drink that first cup of coffee or tea, probably feeling stressed about going to a job that they don't really enjoy, working with people that they don't really like or not making enough money to make living easy. Does that sound like you?

Or maybe you are in a relationship where you are feeling taken for granted, you aren't feeling appreciated, you may feel invisible, maybe your spouse makes work more important, or maybe you are worried that your loved one isn't being faithful.

Or maybe, you or your loved ones spend a large chunk of time on your electronic devices, possibly even in the same room, and so you aren't deeply connecting...

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Is it true?

As mentioned earlier in this blog, bringing conscious awareness to our thoughts and feelings means we can identify triggers or behaviours that we may have not noticed previously.

We can then ask a question like "Is this really true" to see if the negative story we are telling ourself is actually true. 
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More than likely the answer is NO. At least having this awareness, we have a choice. We can choose to continue to feel and behave the way we have done up until now, or we can choose a more positive, happier thought or belief.

Which would make you feel better?

How about today you tell yourself that it's going to be a good day.. Take a few moments and say it to yourself, say it with feeling, bring your awareness down to your heart and say it again, maybe even out loud. Say it LOUD, have a laugh. you may just surprise yourself.

Keep your eye on my page for more snippets of wisdom, I will start posting more regularly going forward. 
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If you feel that getting coaching may help you find a more helpful direction, get in touch with me.

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Free coaching within my community

13/9/2017

 
I have just completed 4 weeks of free coaching sessions from my local cafe in Khandallah, for people from all over Wellington. It was a huge success and some powerful transformations happened for the people who came and had coaching with me. 
Best Relationship Coach 2017
What people took away from the coaching included -
  • That it's completely ok to get help to move forwards
  • That they, like thousands of others often feel stuck in life and are unable to get unstuck without help. During these coaching session I was able to give people some much needed clarity because they took the time to think
  • Some even experienced lightbulb moments, some shed tears and others started taking action towards living a life they truly and deeply want.
If you are ready for transformation or new direction, get in touch.

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